It’s extremely painful to lose your sex drive – not just from the perspective of reducing your sexual activity, but also because it can really affect your relationships with both yourself and your partner/spouse.
I know from experience that self-confidence can be absolutely shattered when your sex-drive, libido and erectile function are on the floor.
As you may know if you’ve read my story elsewhere on this website, I had food poisoning in 2004, while on holiday in Egypt.
The main symptoms were nausea, vomiting, shivers and heartburn, which gradually turned into bloating, abdominal pain and diarrhea.
Believe it or not, this is all relevant to sexual function, or lack of it.
On my return to the UK, I had a white-coated tongue (oral thrush), fatigue and extreme lethargy.
Over the next three years, my fatigue worsened and I developed anxiety and sleep problems.
Worst of all, I lost my sex drive. I suddenly realized I wasn’t getting proper morning erections and had a couple of very embarrassing episodes with sexy women where I just couldn’t get the job done.
My heartburn then returned with a vengeance in 2007 and I vomited on two consecutive mornings, for no apparent reason.
That’s when I decided enough was enough.
- I ran a stool test that showed I had a stomach bacterium called H. pylori.
- I ran a saliva test that showed I had significant imbalances in my cortisol (stress hormone) levels along with low testosterone.
- I ran a urine test that showed I needed to bump up my carnitine levels to enable my body to make energy properly, and that I had low vitamin B6 levels.
- Another urine test showed I had high levels of a chemical called 4-nonyl-phenol in my body. This compound acts like estrogen (the opposite of what I needed as a man).
My body was under an awful lot of stress from these bad bugs, toxins, hormone imbalances and nutrient deficiencies.
Once I’d taken the necessary steps to resolve the issues identified in my test results, all my symptoms went away.
It took around 90-days to get my mojo back, but it was well worth it.
Similar tests now provide the cornerstones of the Hompes Method Testing Toolkit for men who are experiencing sexual symptoms.
These symptoms include:
- Lack of sex drive / libido
- Loss of interest in sex
- Erectile dysfunction
- Premature ejaculation
- Low sperm count
They may be accompanied by:
- Muscle loss
- Fat gain
- Mood changes – depression, anxiety
- Sleep issues
- Loss of self-confidence, motivation and drive
- Digestive symptoms (sometimes)
Stress is Sex’s Worst Enemy
Stress beats sex, every time – “stress” comes in many forms – it’s not just about the stuff you get wound up about on a day-to-day basis.
Bad foods, bad bugs, bad toxins, over or under exercises, alcohol, drugs, nutrient deficiencies, exposure to electromagnetic fields and other stressors all act like straws on your camel’s back.
The accumulation of straws or stressors on your camel’s back causes elevations in your stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline.
In turn, this leads to the suppression of hormones that fuel energy production and sex drive, namely thyroid hormone, DHEA and testosterone (and to a lesser extent in men, progesterone).
Thus, when you’re under lots of stress, your hormonal scales are tipped in the favor of coping with stress rather than having sex.
Don’t worry too much about the fancy names here, just realize the green hormones are the ones you need for optimal sex function as a man:
For great sexual function, you’re looking for ideal levels of all hormones, but among the most important are thyroid, pregnenolone, progesterone, DHEA and testosterone, as shown below:
A simple saliva test performed at home can identify your cortisol, DHEA, progesterone, estrogen and testosterone levels and a simple home finger-prick blood test to check thyroid hormone levels.
These test markers provide a perfect starting point in terms of investigating your hormone balance.
Resolving Men’s Sex Problems
Remember: as stress goes up, sex goes down.
Thus, the first step in re-vitalizing your sexual function is to remove as much stress from your body as possible.
We help you do this by:
Using Hompes Method Basics programme to clean up your nutrition and lifestyle:
- We ditch all the foods that mimic or create more estrogen in your body.
- We ditch all the foods that cause inflammation in your gut and trigger “stress”.
- We also make sure your blood sugar is kept under tight control to minimize cortisol and adrenaline levels (they increase when your blood sugar level drops too low, or goes to high).
Using the Hompes Method Testing Toolkit to detect/remove “hidden” bad stuff that shouldn’t be in your body (bad bugs, bad toxins), and detect/replace stuff that should (good nutrients, good bugs, good hormones).
Removing the bad stuff and replacing the good stuff not only reduces stress on your body, but also provides the nutrients needed for your body to function properly in ALL Seven Areas of Health, not just your sexual function.
Foods to Avoid if you Want to Regain Your Manliness
Certain foods have estrogenic actions in your body – that is they either contain plant-based estrogens, or they act like estrogen in your body, antagonizing your best friend, testosterone.
“Estrogen dominance” is a term we use to describe the phenomenon in both men and women where estrogen levels become too high relative to progesterone and testosterone.
A partial list of these estrogenic foods includes:
- Flax seed oil
- Vegetable oil (except coconut and olive oils)
- Tahini / sesame seeds
- Soy and anything with soy in it
- Multigrain bread
- Certain beans
Note that some of these foods are considered as “health foods”, but nothing could be further from the truth if you’re a man who’s looking to restore sexual vitality.
I recommend you avoid all these foods like the plague. Remove them from your diet, starting today.
Chemicals that Slowly Turn Men into Women
Unfortunately, many environmental chemicals act like estrogen in your body. When you add them to the estrogenic foods, you’re potentially giving yourself a partial sex change.
There are some 100,000 or so manmade chemicals in the environment, and you’re exposed to hundreds on a daily basis. They enter your body through the food and water supply, the air you breathe, and through your skin.
Pesticides, cosmetics, personal care products, detergents, plastics and others can interfere with your hormonal balance, literally pushing you away from maleness and towards femaleness.
Minimizing your exposure to these chemicals is key, and I teach you how to do this in both the Hompes Method Basics program and during our consulting packages.
The Hompes Method Testing Toolkit includes test panels to help identify whether some of these estrogenic compounds have accumulated in your body, and whether your liver has the capacity to remove them properly.
You’d be amazed at the stuff you can test without leaving the comfort of your own home:
- Solvents such as xylene
- Pesticides, including chlorinated and organophosphates
- Plastics, including bisphenol-A and phthalates
- Parabens (petrochemicals)
- Heavy metals such as mercury, lead and arsenic
Many of these chemicals have been firmly established as endocrine disruptors and even carcinogens.
Alcohol – Avoid Until Your Sex Drive or Erectile Dysfunction is Fixed!
Alcohol increases the activity of a hormone called aromatase, which turns testosterone into estrogen (obviously not ideal if you want to regain or retain manliness!)
You may have seen the movie “Fight Club” with Brad Pitt, the first line of which Edward Norton says, “Bob had bitch tits”, describing Meat Loaf’s excessively large male breasts.
Well, bitch tits or man boobs often develop in men who drink alcohol and don’t exercise.
This happens because their excess intake of alcohol leads to conversion of testosterone to estrogen.
They end up with way too much estrogen relative to testosterone. This “estrogen dominance” is a major reason for a man’s declining sex life.
You might also consider the curious phenomenon of “brewer’s droop” in which you can’t for the life of you get an erection when you’ve had a lot to drink.
Alcohol may be good for plucking up a bit of “Dutch courage” when approaching women, but it’s certainly no good in the long run if you can’t make those women happy once you’ve gotten them into bed!
Your Gut is Very Important in All This
If your gut is damaged by bad bugs or bad foods – as mine was – you’re going to have toxins leaking into your bloodstream.
As well as chemicals from food and water, you also have bacterial chemicals that are made by the trillions of bacteria in your gut. These substances are known collectively as “endotoxin”.
Endotoxin can have estrogenic effects in your body, whilst also creating inflammation and overloading your liver.
You’re also going to have a hard time digesting food and absorbing nutrients if your gut is damaged, which can push your hormones further out of balance.
On top of this, bad bugs such as parasites and fungal overgrowth produce “exotoxin”, which causes ostensibly the same problem.
These are three of the main reasons I’m so insistent in fixing up your diet and digestive function if you have sexual dysfunction.
It’s pretty much impossible to restore hormonal balance and sexual function if your gut is damaged and dysfunctional.
A simple stool test done as part of the Hompes Method Comprehensive Digestive Health Check can tell you whether you’re hosting bad bugs, and whether you’re digesting your food properly.
As per our other tests, you don’t need to leave the comfort of your own home to get these tests done.
Your liver’s also very important…
It’s your liver’s responsibility to eliminate excess hormones, especially estrogen.
If your liver is overwhelmed by environmental toxins, endotoxin and exotoxin, and if you are nutritionally depleted, it’s not going to be able to detoxify tocxins and estrogen effectively.
The greater your toxic burden, the more nutrients will be used up in your body’s attempt to get rid of the toxins.
In the end, if you harbor too many bad toxins and not enough good detoxification nutrients to get rid of them, you’re going to develop hormone imbalances that might well affect your sex life.
Your liver’s ability to perform its detoxification jobs can be tested using a simple home urine test that checks for toxin overload, as well as your liver’s nutritional status.
Nutrients are needed to build your body, and run all its collective chemical reactions, or “metabolism”.
There’s a compound in your blood called nitric oxide (NO). It increases blood supply to your penis.
You need plentiful amounts of certain amino acids – which are derived from dietary protein – to make nitric oxide.
Citrulline and arginine are two such amino acids. If these amino acids are deficient – through poor food choices or digestive issues – nitric oxide may not be made in large enough quantities. The end result might well be erectile dysfunction.
Arginine, as well as Trimethylglycine (TMG) and Dimethylglycine (DMG) also enhance both the quantity and quality of sperm production.
Adequate zinc is required for sexual function and fertility. In fact, there can be no male fertility without zinc, as it’s the main mineral component of semen (hence the reason for semen’s white / silvery colour).
Zinc is rapidly used up when your body is under stress.
Vitamin E is needed for optimal sperm quality and quantity, but again it’s quickly used up when the body is under stress. Vitamin E is an antioxidant and is used up when there is inflammation and oxidative stress in your body from bad bugs, toxins and blood sugar imbalances.
B-vitamins are needed in plentiful quantities for energy production, neurotransmitters and detoxification.
They enable your steroid hormone pathways to function optimally (steroids include your “good” hormones progesterone, DHEA and testosterone). In fact, vitamin B5 is needed for the production of all steroid hormones.
You cannot make your steroid hormones without adequate cholesterol, so food choice and making sure your digestive system can absorb cholesterol is important.
As you know already, your inability to make adequate levels of testosterone can be a major cause of low sex drive, as well as many other symptoms, so it’s very important to ensure your steroid hormone pathways are working properly.
You need plenty of iron, copper, vitamin A and selenium for healthy thyroid function. T3 thyroid hormone is important for ensuring your steroid hormones are produced in adequate quantities.
Magnesium is needed for more than 200 chemical reactions in your body and is fundamental for energy production.
You probably get the picture by now.
Any or all of these nutrients can become depleted due to poor diet, digestive issues and stress and they can interfere with sexual function on several levels.
The Hompes Method Testing Toolkit enables you to determine precisely which nutrient deficiencies you have. A truly customized food and supplement plan can then be designed to address your specific deficiencies and imbalances.
How Can Hompes Method Help Improve Male Sexual Function?
As mentioned previously, the first place to start is with your food intake, eating habits and digestive health. You might find that some very simple strategies work well.
Don’t underestimate the power of simple changes to your eating and lifestyle habits as a means of improving sexual health. Diet and lifestyle can modulate your hormone system quickly and effectively.
The Hompes Method Basics online Nutrition and Lifestyle plan is a simple, but very powerful step-by-step programme to help you:
- Remove all the bad foods from your diet that contain estrogens and amplify the effects of this hormone, such as soy and vegetable oils.
- Remove foods that cause inflammation and raise stress hormones.
- Use simple foods to detoxify your gut by removing estrogens and toxins.
- Learn dozens of simple yet tasty recipes and ideas for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks that are packed with nutrients to support your hormone system.
- Improve your liver’s ability to process toxins, which helps to keep your hormone system in balance.
- Avoid exposure to environmental toxins that can create inflammation, stress and hormone imbalances in your body.
- Learn how to choose foods that contain specific nutrients that support hormone production, such as vitamin B5, vitamin E and zinc.
Hompes Method Basics is my way of sharing fifteen years’ education and experience with you in a single, online programme that’s delivered to you on your computer, wherever you are.
In essence, it’s a plan to help you overcome tricky health challenges and elevate your energy levels without the requirement for lab testing and consulting.
Click here to get started on the Hompes Method Basics health rejuvenation plan today and supercharge your sex drive and reproductive function.
Try the Hompes Method Basics programme and if it does not improve your energy inside 3-4 weeks of following the plan closely, consider that something over and above your diet and lifestyle may be draining your energy.
Looking for Deeper Causes of Sex & Reproductive Symptoms
Comprehensive Digestive Health Check
If you have bad bugs in your digestive system, they’ll cause inflammation that your body views as “stress”. Your stress hormone levels may increase, robbing your body of its sex hormones.
Furthermore, if you are not effectively digesting food and absorbing nutrients, you may develop nutrient deficiencies that affect your reproductive system.
Toxins from both good and bad digestive bugs can leak through your delicate digestive lining. These toxins interfere with hormone function and can mimic the effects of estrogen in your body.
The Comprehensive Digestive Health Check involves providing a single stool sample, which is then sent to the laboratory for analysis.
Vitamin and Mineral Status
Certain vitamins and minerals are essential for hormone production and reproductive health. Of these, zinc, copper, B vitamins, folic acid and several others are important.
The Hompes Method Testing Toolkit has several mineral tests, which we use in different situations, depending on each person’s individual situation and requirements.
Hair mineral analysis, blood tests and even a very basic liquid zinc challenge test can be very helpful in determining whether you might have mineral deficiencies.
A simple urine test done first thing in the morning can tell you whether your liver is over-burdened with toxins. If this is the case, you won’t be detoxifying hormones effectively and this can lead to symptoms in your reproductive system.
B vitamins, folic acid, antioxidants such as vitamins C and E, amino acids and other nutrients are critical for detoxifying hormones, as well as hormone production/function and energy production.
The Organic Acids urine test also provides a lot of information about digestive health and whether toxins are leaking through your intestinal wall.
All these factors can affect your hormone system and ultimately, your sex drive and reproductive function.
People with low thyroid hormone levels, or poor thyroid hormone can experience low libido and menstrual problems.
Thyroid hormones, stress hormones and sex/reproductive hormones work together and significantly influence each other.
For example, progesterone supports thyroid function, but excess estrogen suppresses thyroid function and hormone activity.
Unfortunately, doctors often look at a hormone called TSH, but this is inadequate. In Hompes Method, we look at TSH, but also add in markers called free T4 and free T3, plus another marker called TPO.
We feel it’s impossible to accurately assess your thyroid function without a bare minimum of these four test markers, and we always place these results against your symptoms, your temperature and pulse measurements and other lab results to make sure we gain as much understanding as possible regarding what’s going on in your body.
In Hompes Method we test thyroid hormone levels using a simple finger prick blood test that can be performed at home.
Your adrenal glands sit atop each kidney and produce many hormones, most notably cortisol, adrenaline and DHEA. Known as “stress hormones”, they primarily help your body adapt to stress
Adrenal health plays an important role in sexual function. As discussed earlier, the more your body needs to make hormones to deal with stress, the fewer sex hormones it will generally make.
In fact, cortisol is made from progesterone, so the more cortisol your body needs, the less progesterone there will be.
DHEA, another important adrenal hormone, can be converted into both estrogens and testosterone.
Using a simple saliva test you can gain an excellent understanding of cortisol and DHEA levels.
When we combine this analysis with thyroid hormones and sex hormones – as described below – you can get a complete hormonal picture and gain a firm understanding of how your hormone imbalances may be contributing to your reproductive and sexual symptoms.
Sex and Reproductive Hormones
Your sex hormones can be assessed in the same saliva test we use for the adrenal hormones, above. Saliva samples are collected in exactly the same way as they are for the adrenal test, but we ask the lab to analyze the samples for progesterone, estrogens and testosterone (your PETs) as well as the stress hormones.
This is especially helpful if you are a man because, of course, you don’t have a menstrual cycle!
Book Your Hompes Method Health Assessment & Initial Consultation
Should you change your diet and lifestyle according to Hompes Method Basics and not experience any improvements, I recommend you seek professional help.
Many different factors can affect your hormones, nutrient status and sex/reproductive function, so I recommend you complete the Hompes Method Initial Assessment forms and schedule an initial consultation with one of our practitioners.
We will create for you a bespoke package and hold your hand through the process of:
- Optimizing your Nutrition and Lifestyle.
- Running the right lab tests to determine why your energy is low (what bad stuff is in your body, and what good stuff is missing?).
- Designing specific, individualized supplement protocols to address the lab findings.
- Supporting you with weekly one-to-one consultations for the initial 90-days of your programme.
To get started right away, click here and instantly download your Hompes Method Initial Assessment Pack.